Discover How to Feel Closer & More Connected in 7 Days
“At the end of the day people won’t remember
what you said or did, they will remember
how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou
We agree. The way one person treats another can trigger either positive or negative feelings within that person, soon permeating the relationship, for good or bad. Dr. John Gotten [who has researched married couples for almost 30 years], has found:
Stable, happy couples have a 5:1 ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions. That means they exchange at least 5 positive words and behaviors for every negative one. That is easier said than done in the day to day hustle and bustle of daily living. This can be especially true when there are lingering, unresolved frustrations and conflict simmering beneath the surface.
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Learn the most important tweaks to make to generate more good feelings between you and your partner.
This 7 Day Challenge is an introduction for couples who want to experience a new system of being together. This system helps couples to think of the strength of their relationship based on a balance of the deposits (positive experiences) made into the relationship minus the withdrawals (negative experiences). Think of it this way:
Every positive interaction between you and your partner, is a deposit you place in your relationship account. Every negative interaction, is a withdrawal you deduct from your relationship account. Maintaining a 5:1 positive ratio is key to building a happy, stronger relationship over the long term.
If you are experiencing Dr. Gottman’s ratio in reverse (or 1:5 ratio), don’t give up hope, the 7 Day Challenge to a Stronger Relationship is a daily ritual that supports couples’ efforts to start expressing themselves in increasingly positive and productive ways.
According to Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, in their book, Zero Negativity:
“Hurtful words in a relationship can be like a drop of red dye in a glass of water that turns the whole glass pink. What starts out as a slip of tongue, a small slight from one person to another, sets a process in motion that slowly (or quickly) permeates a relationship and begins to define its tone.”
This tone, whether positive or negative, influences the what, why and how couples interact—including all positive (deposits) and negative (withdrawals) interactions. The 7 Day Challenge provides a template for couples to ensure they are making enough deposits into their relationship account to have enough reserve to weather the storms together—resolving and managing conflicts so that they are no longer the prevailing focus of the relationship.
“What you focus on expands.” -Arnold Patent
Every person who focuses on making deposits in their relationship bank, based on the Gottman formula for 5 positive words and behaviors to every negative one, will reap the benefits of good feelings that come from giving and of experiencing their spouse receiving.
For less than a cup of coffee a day and a 7 day commitment,
you can communicate to each other,
“You matter to me” and begin to rebuild the balance.
Registration includes an exercise each day for 7 days.
You’ll learn how to make deposits in your relationship bank every day.