Married and unmarried relationships couples attempt to communicate all the time. Sometimes those conversations are mutually enjoyable, nurturing, supportive and fun. Other times they turn into conflict leaving one or both partners feeling frustrated. This feeling can last for a short period of time. The couple is able to repair the negative feelings and get back to a loving connection pretty rapidly. Still other couples don’t get over the negative feelings. Over time, the unresolved feelings can lead to more distance and disconnection, and eventually and break up or divorce.
Couples who navigate conflict successfully found a way to work through their issues in a win/win way. Couples who get stuck in conflict don’t. They get bogged down in interacting with each other in a way that is hurtful. Sometimes they say and do things to each other cannot be taken back. In other words, they make mistakes when they attempt talk to each other. Frustrating and angry feelings are triggered and prevail.